IT'S O.K TO ASK FOR HELP
As parents, we all hit points where we feel like we failed or we could have done it differently. I reached that point this week, and hopefully my experience could ease the mind of any parent out there going through what seems to be a silent or visible dilemma.
When life dealt me a really confusing hand I like most, had to just figure things out. Which led to me submerging myself in my writing. I was in my bliss. Not only was I doing what love, but I was also raising my now 23 month old and being home when my son came from school. I was on a high. Pulling energy from God knows where.
So much was wrong with that plan, it wasn't even funny. I now had two full time extremely time consuming endeavours, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. I was planning activities and projects all morning along with potty training, ensuring her meals were home prepared and nutritious, reading and teaching and ensuring loads of social interaction with myself and other kids. Whewww! Then came naptime. 2 hrs to tidy up, prep the after nap snack, grab a coffee and begin my writing projects. Lets just say that 2hrs goes really quickly.
That’s when I hit that point. Where my daughter was fully engaged, but the quality of my work was sub par. I know I am a Rock Star Mom, so why did I feel so inadequate. Basically, I realized that as Rockin as I was, no one (not even me) can do it all, I needed help. The daycare search began. I knew exactly what I was looking for and the quality care I needed. It wasn’t an easy search though, with the critique of a Rockin mom/excellent nanny, I had standards and the daycares had a grillin’ to look forward to. There was a hiccup or two but eventually, I found the right fit for me and my daughter. She is now thriving and my work is up to standard.
So for all you parents out there trying to do it all, remember that the smartest man knows that he still has a lot to learn. So know that reaching out for help is not a weakness nor is it a sign that you aren’t capable but it is the very strong trait of a loving, wonderful and competent parent.
When life dealt me a really confusing hand I like most, had to just figure things out. Which led to me submerging myself in my writing. I was in my bliss. Not only was I doing what love, but I was also raising my now 23 month old and being home when my son came from school. I was on a high. Pulling energy from God knows where.
So much was wrong with that plan, it wasn't even funny. I now had two full time extremely time consuming endeavours, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. I was planning activities and projects all morning along with potty training, ensuring her meals were home prepared and nutritious, reading and teaching and ensuring loads of social interaction with myself and other kids. Whewww! Then came naptime. 2 hrs to tidy up, prep the after nap snack, grab a coffee and begin my writing projects. Lets just say that 2hrs goes really quickly.
That’s when I hit that point. Where my daughter was fully engaged, but the quality of my work was sub par. I know I am a Rock Star Mom, so why did I feel so inadequate. Basically, I realized that as Rockin as I was, no one (not even me) can do it all, I needed help. The daycare search began. I knew exactly what I was looking for and the quality care I needed. It wasn’t an easy search though, with the critique of a Rockin mom/excellent nanny, I had standards and the daycares had a grillin’ to look forward to. There was a hiccup or two but eventually, I found the right fit for me and my daughter. She is now thriving and my work is up to standard.
So for all you parents out there trying to do it all, remember that the smartest man knows that he still has a lot to learn. So know that reaching out for help is not a weakness nor is it a sign that you aren’t capable but it is the very strong trait of a loving, wonderful and competent parent.
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