REALLY!!...AT THE SAME TIME!
Somehow the fact that I am now a mom of a 23 month old girl and 14 year old boy, snuck up on me and both of them are going through their transition periods at the same time. Lucky Me! These transition period episodes happen so radomly that I cherish the many days with 'I love you's', endless hugs and non stop conversations.
My 23 month old has the most beautiful spirit. She is focused, funny and an extremely loving little girl - I may be biased but I am allowed😄. As she approaches the 2 year mile stone, her thirst for independence is very clear and my ability to breath deep is well practiced LOL. Now does this sound familiar to anyone...she thinks everything is hers and she lets you know if she doesn't want you to take it. She believes she is invincible, bedtime is on a whole other level of defiance and her super favorite word is, inevitably 'NO'. Be honest, as cute as the little munchkins are, this is a scary transition point.
As for my 14 year old, he is and has been from the beginning my right hand. He is the most adaptable, confident, loving and protective kid I know - this just screams of bias I know😄...but in my defense I really love my kids. He is headed full speed into the realm of self discovery, new developments physically and mentally, a shift in the awareness not only of self but of his peers and the heightened need to be relevant. As this time is upon him, he thinks he knows everything and that I was somehow born yesterday. Then there are the quiet moods which overlap the exaggerated sighs. My pet peeve thought is the constant reminders to CLEAN YOUR ROOM! Sounds familiar? If not that just means that you haven't got there yet, brace yourself and breathe.
Now we all went through this, our transition points, and most of us look back and try to figure why most of it mattered so much. Personally I take a moment to remember to see things from their point of view, especially during the teen years. It's a tough time and can be confusing, so having a great support system and a outlet to feel comfortable to share is a must. So try to breathe, support and guide and above all else be PATIENT.
As a parent I try everyday, not only to nurture better kids but also to nurture a better me. So I honestly say they are days I feel like I am on top of everything and others where I step back and think...WTH! Parenting has no one size fits all, so through any transition use your parental instincts (don't complicate things too much) and focus on the fact that you know your child. Step back when you need to assess, hug them when you need to comfort and really listen when they need your support. Remember DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP!
Please remember I am not a psychologist and not licensed to give advice, this is all based on my personal situations as a mom.
My 23 month old has the most beautiful spirit. She is focused, funny and an extremely loving little girl - I may be biased but I am allowed😄. As she approaches the 2 year mile stone, her thirst for independence is very clear and my ability to breath deep is well practiced LOL. Now does this sound familiar to anyone...she thinks everything is hers and she lets you know if she doesn't want you to take it. She believes she is invincible, bedtime is on a whole other level of defiance and her super favorite word is, inevitably 'NO'. Be honest, as cute as the little munchkins are, this is a scary transition point.
As for my 14 year old, he is and has been from the beginning my right hand. He is the most adaptable, confident, loving and protective kid I know - this just screams of bias I know😄...but in my defense I really love my kids. He is headed full speed into the realm of self discovery, new developments physically and mentally, a shift in the awareness not only of self but of his peers and the heightened need to be relevant. As this time is upon him, he thinks he knows everything and that I was somehow born yesterday. Then there are the quiet moods which overlap the exaggerated sighs. My pet peeve thought is the constant reminders to CLEAN YOUR ROOM! Sounds familiar? If not that just means that you haven't got there yet, brace yourself and breathe.
Now we all went through this, our transition points, and most of us look back and try to figure why most of it mattered so much. Personally I take a moment to remember to see things from their point of view, especially during the teen years. It's a tough time and can be confusing, so having a great support system and a outlet to feel comfortable to share is a must. So try to breathe, support and guide and above all else be PATIENT.
As a parent I try everyday, not only to nurture better kids but also to nurture a better me. So I honestly say they are days I feel like I am on top of everything and others where I step back and think...WTH! Parenting has no one size fits all, so through any transition use your parental instincts (don't complicate things too much) and focus on the fact that you know your child. Step back when you need to assess, hug them when you need to comfort and really listen when they need your support. Remember DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP!
Please remember I am not a psychologist and not licensed to give advice, this is all based on my personal situations as a mom.
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