YOU ARE MORE THAN JUST A MOM
This week I want to send a reminder to all moms out there You are more than just a mom.
Where being a mom is extremely rewarding, and no doubt brings that all too familiar bubbly joy, we sometimes get lost in the role of being a mom. There are inevitably days or nights when you have that moment to yourself, and briefly, memories flood your mind. Memories that you smile. Images of the crazy, fun and sometimes questionable things we did before we had kids. Or maybe that old girlfriend reaches out, and you sit for 2 hours reminiscing about the times you had way back when. Then, you come off the phone and realize that for 2 hours you were having insane laughs and pre-motherhood conversations, which leaves a lingering smirk until you begin to feel just a little guilty, for feeling so good and being so happy about life before your kids. Does that mean you miss those days? Does it mean you don't love being a mom as much as you think? The answer to both questions is most definitely 'NO'.
My personal spin on this is as follows. The joy you felt from reminiscing, simply means that you had a life before your kids and it was fun. Because let's face it, we weren't born mommies. We had first loves and heartbreaks, first dates and dances, parties and late nights and days where we could live on pizza and fried chicken and not gain a pound. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. So drop the guilt, know that it is possible to enjoy your memories and have loved your life Pre-motherhood, along with waking up totally in love with that babbly, drooly cute bundle of joy, or loving the neverending conversations you have with your 5 year old. Pre-motherhood and Post-motherhood maybe different but it is all life, and I live by one mantra “Life Is Joy”.
Don't forget the occasional night out though. Because if you are anything like me, sometimes you get lost in the mommy role and as I have come to realize you need a balance. So take a note from me, get dressed up again, slip on your heels, and take a couple hours of me time with friends and be happy balanced mommy😊.
Where being a mom is extremely rewarding, and no doubt brings that all too familiar bubbly joy, we sometimes get lost in the role of being a mom. There are inevitably days or nights when you have that moment to yourself, and briefly, memories flood your mind. Memories that you smile. Images of the crazy, fun and sometimes questionable things we did before we had kids. Or maybe that old girlfriend reaches out, and you sit for 2 hours reminiscing about the times you had way back when. Then, you come off the phone and realize that for 2 hours you were having insane laughs and pre-motherhood conversations, which leaves a lingering smirk until you begin to feel just a little guilty, for feeling so good and being so happy about life before your kids. Does that mean you miss those days? Does it mean you don't love being a mom as much as you think? The answer to both questions is most definitely 'NO'.
My personal spin on this is as follows. The joy you felt from reminiscing, simply means that you had a life before your kids and it was fun. Because let's face it, we weren't born mommies. We had first loves and heartbreaks, first dates and dances, parties and late nights and days where we could live on pizza and fried chicken and not gain a pound. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. So drop the guilt, know that it is possible to enjoy your memories and have loved your life Pre-motherhood, along with waking up totally in love with that babbly, drooly cute bundle of joy, or loving the neverending conversations you have with your 5 year old. Pre-motherhood and Post-motherhood maybe different but it is all life, and I live by one mantra “Life Is Joy”.
Don't forget the occasional night out though. Because if you are anything like me, sometimes you get lost in the mommy role and as I have come to realize you need a balance. So take a note from me, get dressed up again, slip on your heels, and take a couple hours of me time with friends and be happy balanced mommy😊.
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