Mothering Mommy

I have been so under the weather this holiday season, and not only was I down but so was my little one. So this is a short one. We both began to break down on Christmas Eve, with me a bit more under the weather than she was. We made it through Christmas and had the most wonderful day, until dinner was served. I actually had no appetite. Then came the muscle aches, chills and full congestion. I was feeling like crap. Then my little one woke up Boxing Day feverish and just a little grumpy. It was safe to say something took us both out. Obviously we both went to the doctor, which was eventful of itself. All seven hours of our time at the office. But at least we left there with meds and test done to find out if we fell prey to the flu. The upside to this though is that my son, was perfectly healthy as he always is. His immunity is one for the record books. After going through and still dealing with us both being sick at the same time, it got me to realize that the commercial that says...

As parents either first timers or otherwise we struggle daily with the question "Am I doing the right thing?" Along with hearing the unmistakable "that happened to me..." advice from other parents (which honestly I am sometimes guilty of), we also deal with the grandparent advice that starts with "you do it like this otherwise...." and then the perfect stranger advice, all this chatter makes it hard sometimes to clearly analyze the situation causing the doubtful statement mentioned earlier to begin nagging at us. Let me be first to say that advice should always be considered. The fact is we are not the first people in the world to have kids, there are generations before us with experience and other parents, that have dealt with similar issues that you are going through and believe me they all mean well, so give the advice an ear. With that being said listen closely...."YOU ARE YOUR CHILD'S PARENT AND WE ALL HAVE PARENTAL INSTINCTS SO TRUST THEM!...

Well it's the end of another week and we are blessed to safely see another weekend. ( Breathe...). So this week was totally normal. Poop here, crying there, lots of laughing and moving around. The ever present signs that independence is coming and the meaningful no. Today though, I want to speak on patience. The kind that everyone of us should have in all of our day to day transactions. As a nanny I have mastered the let's woo sahhhh talk with all my charges, cuz as we all know kids are a cute bundle of unfocused emotions, and it's up to us to teach them how to deal with these  emotions and focus their energy. All that being said to lead up to this, dealing with your own personal  cute unfocused bundle of emotions is on a whole different level to care taking. First off, like most parents I think to myself that my kids are different we all think "I am never going to let my kid do that!" as we observe  a boneless moment. That is until our kid goes boneless on the fl...

**I am still a nanny but in a share situation where I bring my daughter with me, awesome right! So for any posts that contain my current charge I will call her P out of respect for her privacy and her parents.** We have all heard of the age old right of passage called, the “Terrible Twos” and far too many of us know first hand, that although it’s description is correct the timing is not. As a mom for 13 years and a nanny for 10 years I can confirm that these transition episodes begin way before the age of 2. I can also truthfully state, that no matter how experienced you are, no matter how understanding and calm you are in your resolve, the Transition Episodes are no walk in the park. All this being said as a nanny I have dealt with many a tantrum. I have sat in the street, kneeled in stores, cradled kids in my arms as they scream and kick, all this while reassuring and breathing quite deep. Needless to say, some episodes last 2 mins others, 2 hours and where some come with crocodi...